I learned that when we confess, we are opening up the wound so that He can heal us, truly heal us. No more 12 steps to 'self care', no more band-aid solutions that eventually lead to infection and spread into other areas of life. God wants the matter settled, once and for all so that we can move on to the next course in our spiritual growth.
I wasn't ready to be a mother, and because of that I haven't always been the mother my children need. Most recently, I found myself lost without a clue what to do when my oldest had a major meltdown, allowing her possessive jealousy to get the best of her. … I needed a second to breath, to stop shaking. If there was a solution I wasn't going to find it burried under emotional outbursts. Only with calm, clear intention.
Be reasonable with your choices. If you can't see yourself wanting to do it tomorrow, don't plan for it.